February 2, 2014 by kittynh
I’m never sure how to explain the family Mammy doll. My first inclination is to say “We’re not racists, really!”
I grew up in a fairly liberal family, where the issue of equality for everyone was an important topic of conversation. My family came from the Eastern Shore of Maryland. Maryland was a “border state” during the Civil War, with a state song that will make anyone cringe in shame after the first verse. Our family though were firm supporters of the Union. My relatives served fighting for the North .Family diaries from the time show that slavery was the reason they had joined up. The family morally believed slavery was unjust and immoral. I’m told by the family historian we were the rather annoying abolitionist types to our slave owning neighbors.
Defending your family by saying,”Oh we’re not racist!” though is no excuse for making people uncomfortable. Mammy doll doesn’t get a “pass” just because our family long ago fought on the right side of the Civil War. I also dislike people that say “You know my OTHER (fill in minority) friends don’t find this offensive!” It’s not my worry if a group will find this doll offensive.
If someone comes to my home, I want that person to be comfortable. Not offending someone is often simply respecting their feelings. I don’t know the personal and family history of every person that will visit me. However, I would like as much as possible to have each person that visits me to be comfortable, not offended.
My problem is I own the family mammy doll. This doll was made by my beloved grandmother as a doll to watch after my mother’s babydolls when my mother was away at school. My own mother, when younger, was watched after by a wonderful caretaker while my grandmother worked. Unlike most mothers in the neighborhood my grandmother had a career as a nurse she enjoyed and was proud of. On the Eastern Shore of Maryland, you hired a black woman (or as my grandmother said “colored”) to help with child care and cooking if you worked full time.
This was the depression, the 1930’s, and work was scarce. My grandmother’s nursing was an important part of the family income. The mammy doll is a reflection of what life was like then. When mom was away someone watched the children. At that time in Maryland that person was more than likely black. This was true not just for well to do families, my grandparents struggled as so many did during the depression.
The doll is not in the best of shape. My grandmother learned sewing skills growing up in an orphanage run by the Episcopalian Church in Easton Maryland. Her mother had died from burns while saving her children from a house fire. All her children lived. The boys went to family, but the 2 girls went to the local orphanage. My great grandfather visited when he could, and he never remarried.
If this sounds like “Jane Eyre”, it wasn’t. The girls grew up with a far better education than most women of the time received. They were not allowed to leave the orphanage until they had a skill, which meant a choice of teacher or nurse. My grandmother chose nursing and truly loved her work. The orphanage had the entire top floor dedicated to teaching the girls sewing. My grandmother sewed her entire life and produced beautiful garments. She sewed beautifully detailed dresses for me when I was a child. Still, she also produced the mammy doll. The doll has dress, lovely apron, and petticoat. There are lace accents on all the garments.
The problem is the face. The face is a stereotype that went out of
favor long ago. My grandmother lovingly cornrowed the yarn hair, and sewed the garments. She gave the doll a face like that she would have seen on other depictions of blacks in cartoons and advertisements. The doll sits, as it has for years, on the top shelf of a closet. I’ve considered what to do with it. I’d love to donate it to a museum perhaps, where the cultural aspects of it could be part of the description, but I also think there are examples in far better shape than this doll.
My own history of the doll was that it sat happily in a chair in a corner when I was a child. My mother’s baby dolls had been loved too well and were thrown out long ago, but mammy doll survived. I never enjoyed playing with dolls, instead I loved stuffed animals. My stuffed animals were fine to run around unsupervised when I was not there, so I imagined Mammy was enjoying a well earned retirement.
The chair the doll sat in, sits empty in a corner of a room. I often think of plunking the doll in the chair as happy reminder of my grandmother’s home. Then I think, “What if someone sees the doll? Would they be offended?” The doll is a reminder of a time which I hope is long gone, though some tea party depictions of Obama are unhappy reminders this facial stereotype persists.
I also worried about this issue when writing a blog post about Thanksgiving. I collect old children’s book, many in horrible shape, as I like to scan the old illustrations. I enjoy “saving” illustrations that are soon to be lost. I had a nice one featuring a cute Thanksgiving story, but the 1920’s illustration worried me. While not featuring the over the top big eyes and lips, I worried it could be offensive to some people. “Offensive” means making someone uncomfortable. It’s not up to me to decide if something is or isn’t offensive for someone else, it’s up to them to decide. I’m posting it here to show the fine line. It seems fine to me, but my rule of thumb is, if I think twice about it, then I shouldn’t use it.
Another example, this vintage post card of cats. The servant is the all black cat. This one was rather difficult, but I did decide to share and use it. It’s cats. I do also think the cats look like cats. So my call on this one, it was fine for the limited use I wished to make of it.
Family history can sit on a shelf for now. I hope one day the doll can find a good home, where historical context and education is part of her new role in life.
- My Lee Middleton doll (jordantaylor0815.wordpress.com)
- From Stereotype to Superhero: Gullah Sci-Fi Mysteries Reclaim Mammy, Uncle Remus (racialicious.com)
- Mammy, Jezebel, Mulatto, and Sapphire: Breaking Down The Mythical Constructions of Black Women in Nina Simone’s: Four Women (niasadespeaks.wordpress.com)
- Stoking the Racist Imagination: Uncle Ben, Aunt Jemima, and The Mammy Cookie Jar (brianragsdalewriter.com)